Thursday, August 19, 2010

I am on top of the world!

I am on top of the world!

However, there are more challenges yet to come. I must be ready with all the challenges and obstacles which I will encounter in future. However, I won't be alone this time, my lovely darling will be with me and both of us will face all the challenges in future together. Look at the positive side, it might not be a bad thing to accept all the challenges in life. We can't have everything we want. We can't own this world. As long as we are contented in our life with the decision made and whatever the possibilities that will turn out to be, we must be ready to take it.

If you want a change, you must not resist changes. We must be daring or else we stay where we are forever.
I hope that things will continue to go on my way. I hope that we will be reaching up to the star soon.

Smart is not enough in this globalisation and competitive world, we must be street-smart.


Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Thursday, August 12, 2010

Great food with darling

Tauhu with Thai sauce - HIGHLY RECOMMENDED.
Stove Kitchen, Jln Song.

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Thanks to God, I am still alive!

Thanks to God for saving our lives! We are really blessed. Now, I know how meaningful and precious life is.

I feel fortunate and thankful to God that I am still alive and I am still here writing my blog. I couldn't predict what the outcome is if I was not quick and calm enough.We both could have sustained serious cuts or injuries or even worse.

The story goes this way:

My colleague, E**** and I had a briefing on Cambridge English at Sunway College in Kuching yesterday. The course ended around 430pm. We decided to go work around 5.50am early in the morning the following day (as it takes about 1 and a half hour to reach Sematan). I drive as usual. We reached Sematan area about 7 am, however, it is still quite a distance to reach my school (approximately 10 minutes).

We were tailing a lorry when we were about to reach Kampung Sebako. The road is straight and it's clear. Therefore, I tried to overtake the lorry by giving a signal. When I was about to overtake the lorry which I think my car speed at that time was about 60-70km/h, the lorry skidded from its lane. We were side by side. I was panic and I immediately sounded my car horn. The lorry driver did not aware (or most probably he is DEAF!) and he tried to overtake the car in front as well (which at that time, i had almost successfully overtaken him )When he skidded from the lane which my car was heading, I sounded the horn continuously. I even tried to avoid the lorry till I almost reached the roadside! The traumatic moment was when I couldn't avoid him anymore as I was almost heading to the bridge (as he "pushed" me to the other side of the road till the bridge). Instead of hitting and knocking on the bridge (which i think it would give a huge impact), I turned my sterling to the left side. All of the sudden, I heard a big "bang" from the back of my car! My car was shaking terribly(imagine I was driving VIOS, if i drove Kenari, i think my car would overturn) and I hold my sterling tightly as I felt that the sterling was shaking tremendously as well!My colleague was screaming loudly in the car and we thought we were just done...

After we recovered from our consciousness, we thought If I did not hold the sterling tightly or if i drove with one hand, i guess both of us could have suffered serious injuries or...things could have gone even worse. But I told myself that I must not head to the bridge,if I did, my car could have been seriously damaged and both of us could have suffered serious injuries or our car could have been thrown out from the bridge inside the river!Gosh....couldn't imagine...

I stopped my car after that. We were both traumatized and couldn't help to recall what had happened. We both came out from the car and we scolded the driver for being so reckless! If he could have been awaken (i think he was fallen asleep) after i sounded my first long horn, he could have slowed
down or followed his lane, he wouldn't knock on my car. He was totally unconscious at that moment!

Lastly, we resorted the matter when his boss arrived by promising to pay for my car repair. My colleague told me her legs were still aching due to traumatize. My hands were both shaking. We both sat in the car for quite some time before continue our journey to the school.

We had a bad experience and we were both shocked as things happened in a blink of our eyes. However, I do not mind about the damage of my car, I feel blissful that we are still alive and we are still able to teach and see the students in the class. I feel thankful that I am still alive and took dinner with my housemate this evening.

It is true when the saying goes, Better be safe than sorry. I drive carefully but other people drive carelessly. Please, please be considerate, be awake and be conscious when you are driving!You might not be the victim but somebody might because of your careless driving!Think of others on the road!You would feel regret for your whole life if something bad happens, just because of YOU!

Monday, July 26, 2010

Breakfast place

HOTTEST eating breakfast place in Kuching - Zhang Chun, pandungan, slightly opposite Cutting edge or same row with the old Hindu Temple near Lime Hotel.

Hot because there are only a few fans in the coffee shop
Hot because there are too many people waiting for the seats.
Hot because you sweat too much.
Maybe people from Kuching love this kind of place...the longer you wait for your food, the more you appreciate your food; or maybe, when more people gather at the place= meaning good food / worth waiting?

haha.undeniably, the teh C Peng is very special RM1.50 for regular (S size), RM3.50 (M size) for average,RM5 for big (L size).

Thursday, July 22, 2010

How can you be an effective leader?

"How can you be an effective leader?" begins with a story:

A young officer in the Army discovered that he had no change when he tried to buy a soft drink from a vending machine. He flagged down a passing private and asked him, "Do you have change for a dollar,?"
The private said cheerfully, "I think so, let me take a look."
The officer drew himself up stiffly and said, "Soldier, that is no way to address a superior. We’ll start all over again. Do you have change for a dollar?"
The private came to attention, saluted smartly, and said, "No, sir!"

Each of us commands some authority. There are or will be those we guide, supervise, rear, mentor or lead. Some of us will be effective and others will feel like they’re running a cemetery: they’ve got a lot of people under them and nobody’s listening.


Some of us will be effective and others will feel like they’re running a cemetery: they’ve got a lot of people under them and nobody’s listening.

http://www.appleseeds.org/4-traits-lead.htm© 2001 Steve Goodier

According to Carter McNamara MBA, PhD:
I think a leader can be of varying ‘warmth and fuzziness,” but a leader has to respect others. You can’t lead without it. Otherwise we are back to manipulation. 

How are some people able to effortlessly lead and inspire others, whilst other meet with constant criticism and failure? What are the qualities that we should look for in potential leaders? If you ever find yourself in the position to offer leadership, what are the factors that will help you lead more effectively?

The following characteristics will help you estimate the leadership ability of others and become a better leader yourself.

Inspire not Command.
“A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves.” – Lao Tsu


The best leader will inspire his followers. He will lead, yet people will not feel that they are being led. If you direct people through issuing proclamations and directives, you will come up against opposition and resistance. The most effective leadership is to help others feel they are working from their own initiative. To inspire your fellow workers in this way, it is necessary to lead by example and offer encouragement where appropriate.

Have Confidence and Belief.
Confidence and belief are essential for effective leadership. The nature of the human mind is to doubt and expect the worst. Unless a leader can maintain a clear vision of where he wishes to go, others will not follow. If a leader has an iron will and tremendous self belief, he can can inspire others very powerfully to pursue the ideal.

Be willing to admit Mistakes.  
A good leader needs the strength to ignore criticism. However, many leaders make the mistake of thinking this means that they can never admit they are wrong. Actually, this stubbornness is usually the result of their own ego. They don’t want to admit their mistakes because they feel this would make them look stupid (oh ya,this is very true rude) However, to persist with the wrong strategy, just to try and prove yourself correct, is the worst thing a leader can do. A leader should ignore his ego and change course if events prove different to expectations. People appreciate a leader who can admit his mistakes, but if you keep making mistakes all the time people will lose faith in your competence.

Delegate Where Appropriate.
“Leadership: the art of getting someone else to do something you want done because he wants to do it.” -Dwight D. Eisenhower
A good leader cannot do the jobs of several people. A leader who tries to control absolutely everything, will get bogged down in minor details. It also displays a lack of confidence in others. People need to feel valued and given responsibility. A good leader needs to be able to delegate to the right people and intervene only at critical moments.

Learn From Others.
A good leader should be constantly learning and improving. We should learn from our mistakes, but also we should read the counsel of experts. It is a mistake to feel that all we need is a strong will. Good Leadership requires wisdom and a humility to learn. A leader who thinks he knows everything, is destined to get into trouble. Leadership and learning are synonymous.

Sacrifice.
“Only one man in a thousand is a leader of men — the other 999 follow women.” -Groucho Marx
To be a real leader, at times, we need to sacrifice our personal comforts and desires. A leader needs to be able and willing to put the interests of his people first. If we are primarily concerned with our own affairs, it is not possible to be a true and powerful leader.

Emphasize good qualities in others.
The best way to gain the loyalty and support of others is to appreciate their efforts. This should be sincere and not just at times when things are going well. A good leader will instinctively seek to draw out the good qualities of other people. This is much more effective than trying to point out and correct their weaknesses. A leader will also take time to offer gratitude for the efforts of others. This is particularly important at times when things are not going as planned; it is at times like this that people need appreciation most.

Detached from Criticism.
A good leader is not autocratic, but, at the same time he needs to have the strength to pursue strategies, even if temporarily unpopular. A good leader should be able to listen to criticism without getting emotionally upset.

Humility.
It is a mistake to feel that you are always right. Any display of ego creates feelings of inferiority and superiority. In the long run, this undermines your effectiveness as a leader. If you are proved right, don’t spend time reminding people it was your idea. A good leader, is concerned with the well being of his project / group, and not with his personal standing. Also, humility does not mean false modesty, it means working quietly without demanding recognition and praise; this quality is quite rare amongst leaders.

Be prepared to Follow.
To learn the art of leadership, we also need to learn the art of following others. If we can listen to others, people will respond in similar fashion and will be willing to follow our advice. We cannot expect to always have others be at our beck and call. If we demand others always follow us, people will not be attracted to our style of leadership.

 http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/do-you-have-the-characteristics-of-an-effective-leader/

Monday, July 12, 2010

Spain crowned champion in World Cup 2010!


Paul octopus is 100% correct. Spain wins Nethelands 1-0

Dutch Disappointments : Spanish Celebrations!




More photos from the website below:
http://www.theage.com.au/photogallery/world-cup-2010/spain-v-netherlands/20100712-105y9.html?selectedImage=1


http://newsplethora.org/spain-is-the-world-cup-champion/1708/
http://www.sofiaecho.com/2010/07/12/931440_world-cup-2010-spain-are-the-new-world-champions




































taken from : http://www.theage.com.au/photogallery/world-cup-2010/spain-v-netherlands/20100712-105y9.html?selectedImage=1